Resources for Clients
The Wheel of Consent®
Betty Martin has been and continues to be a major influence on my work.
As well as The School of Consent, Betty also has a YouTube channel. One of her pivotal messages for me is summed up in the video Why the choosing is more important than the doing.
There is a great video with Harry Faddis who originated The 3 Minute Game, the second video on this page https://bettymartin.org/how-to-play-the-3-minute-game/
Recommended reading & viewing
Jam (6 minutes), a stop-motion animation by Toronto sex educator Karen B. K. Chan, proposes an alternate framework for sexual connection where partners are collaborators in unscripted journeys; where self-practice, experience and pleasure are valued; and where consent is ongoing and reciprocal, just as in a musical jam session.
The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin with Robyn Dalzen
Jack Morin’s books: The Erotic Mind and Anal Pleasure and Health
The Power of Focusing: Finding Your Inner Voice by Ann Weiser Cornell
Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor
The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk - very readable and highly recommended
Steven Haines’ “…is Really Strange” series Trauma / Pain / Anxiety /Touch. Short, science-based, graphic books. "Anxiety Is Really Strange" won the BMA Medical Book, Popular Medicine, Award in 2018
Come as You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life by Emily Nagoski
Science for Sexual Happiness: A Guide to Reclaiming Erotic Pleasure by Caffyn Jesse
Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure by Sheri Winston
Healers on the Edge: Somatic Sex Education by Caffyn Jesse
Touch: The Science of Hand, Heart, and Mind by David J. Linden
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